Coping with the grief of the loss of a loved one.

Coping with the grief of the loss of a loved one.

There are a few things that affect us more deeply than the death of a loved one. It is not only that we have to endure the intense pain of loss, but we are also left to face a future that will likely be different from what we had expected.

The grief of a loved one, sometimes may force one to contend with a range of emotions that one have never experienced in life. How then does one cope with the flood of emotions that comes from losing a loved one?

Cry if you have to. Crying go a long way to ease the pain of grief. You don’t have to be afraid to let the tears flow. It is not a sign of weakness neither is it the lack of faith.

Don’t be plagued by the feelings of guilt. Sometimes there is this feeling of guilt which is most of the times unrealistic. Perhaps you feel a measure of guilt for things you neglected to do. You might even torture yourself with words like, ‘if only.’ ‘If only I had done this.’ ‘If only I had done that.’ But remember that, it is normal to feel regret over things you’ve wished you would have done differently had you known what would happen. But you did not know. Therefore the guilt is inappropriate.

Discuss your feelings. Keeping the feelings locked inside may make it difficult for you to deal with your grief. More so, discussing your feelings with someone you trust will pave the way for you to receive kind words of encouragement when you need them most. This few tips might also be useful.

· Talk to a family member.

· Talk to close friends.

· Talk to God.

Writing down your thought about the lost loved one can be of a tremendous help in coping with grief. Here are some suggestions that might be of help.

· List some pleasant memories you have of the person.

· Write down what you wish you could have said to the person while he or she is alive.

· Imagine that you have a younger one who is also struggling with feelings of guilt over the death. Write what you could say to comfort your younger one.

Grief can be liked to a wave that crashes ashore at unexpected moments.